These brief descriptions can only sketch out a few well known possibilities that I have come across many times. I am attempting to sketch out a few patterns – individuals may well not fit the pattern too well, of course.

Also, this is focussed on the problems – many people with Asperger’s may find a route around the pitfalls and succeed, in which case coaching can be helpful in supporting them in finding ways to achieve more.

In all cases where coaching is appropriate, it may be better to coach the individual with Asperger’s or it may be more helpful to coach the family who are, after all, the most influential people.

I have referred to the person with Asperger’s as ‘he’ throughout, just for ease of reading. My apologies to the girls and women with Asperger’s – I believe that the problems are the same when viewed from this level, except for the unique risks that girls and women can run from proximity with men.

Also I have only written about the larger problems – many people will move through education and into employment and while they may experience problems, particularly around relationships, the people I meet generally have larger problems. Coaching can help those who are succeeding of course, in the same way that it can help anyone else who wants more or something different out of their life.

None of these patterns are pre-determined. Not all people have breakdowns, not all turn to alcohol, not all remain unemployed and alone. However Asperger’s is a stressful thing and under stress people tend to turn to the available solutions (parents, alcohol, computers, etc). These notes outline a few well trodden paths, most of which are best avoided. Another list would outline the strengths and joys inherent in the Asperger’s experience.